The marriage of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle made me a romantic again, but love is not always roses and tiaras. My partner recently went through a crisis where his wife withdrew her consent for our relationship a year and … Continue reading An Ethical Framework for Relationship Agreements
Back in 1981, as a freshman at Cornell, I remember many late nights with friends, eating pizza and smoking pot in each other’s dorm rooms, discussing how we wanted to live our lives after we graduated and (presumably) got married … Continue reading Children and Polyamory: The Kids Are Alright
Tired of always seeing monogamous people on TV? Unicornland is an upcoming series that navigates uncharted territory in New York City’s dating scene: Couples. Creator/producer Lucy Gillespie answers some questions about the series. To learn more and support Unicornland, visit their … Continue reading Unicornland, the New Series
Thanks to my friend Alan for the giving me the idea for this post. When we say that someone is monogamous, we usually mean that he/she is sexually exclusive with one partner. But does that mean only intercourse or all … Continue reading The Five Dimensions of Relationship Openness
Your partner wants to be poly. You’re … upset, sad, angry, confused, and scared, but you love your partner and you don’t want to end the relationship. This was me back in 1992 when my wife announced an attraction to another … Continue reading You Say Poly, I Say Good Golly!
One of the most difficult experiences for people transitioning to polyamory is having a partner who is resistant to an open relationship. It usually goes like this: Two people are in a monogamous relationship by default. One of them learns … Continue reading Exploring Polyamory with a Reluctant Partner
Our transition into polyamory was far from over after Jack decided that it was ok for me and Mike to engage in sexual activities without vaginal sex. In September I met Sebastian, who proved to be far more tempting to … Continue reading Opening Up My Marriage, Part 2
Before I met my husband on a bus, I had a feeling that I might marry him. I had just moved to Albany, New York, a city so bleak it was named one of the ten worst cities in the … Continue reading Opening Up My Marriage, Part 1
Art shares his experience becoming polyamorous as a married couple in this interview. What were your beliefs and expectations about monogamy growing up? My father was always a “searcher.” In the ‘70s, he wanted an open marriage (which didn’t last long), … Continue reading From Model T to Solar Car: Art’s Story
If you imagine that adults who become polyamorous grew up in hippie households with flower child parents who introduced them to marijuana before they reached puberty, nothing could be further from the truth in my case. I grew up with traditional … Continue reading From Mormonism to Polyamory: My Story
