Our society, and many around the world, confers many benefits to legally married couples, among them being able to share your health insurance plan with your spouse, tax benefits, custody of children, and if one of you is a foreign … Continue reading If You Love Someone, Don’t Marry Them
Matthew and Mary Crawley of the hit series Downton Abbey had the worst time getting engaged, despite being in love the entire time. First, she has a one night stand with a Turkish guy who falls dead in her bed, then her … Continue reading Unconditional Love: Polyamory with a Primary Partner
We live in a culture of loneliness. As career patterns and housing patterns have shifted towards greater mobility and increasing distance, more people than ever are living alone, marrying later, and participating in fewer community activities. In a study in which researchers asked a … Continue reading Loneliness and the Secondary
Anne Boleyn was not content to be the mistress of King Henry VIII. Born of aristocratic parents and a diplomat father, Anne and her siblings were familiar in the court of King Henry at an early age. Although she had previously been … Continue reading Envy and the Secondary
In my last blog post I wrote about the benefits of dating married people. Namely that dating isn’t always about finding someone to marry, but finding joy in relationships regardless of their potential for long-term commitment. Being a secondary also … Continue reading The Challenges of Being a Secondary
In 1818, eighteen year old Fanny Brawne met and fell in love with aspiring Romantic poet, John Keats. Keats was about twenty-three at the time, and not well known. Fanny’s parents disapproved of their courtship because Keats had given up … Continue reading Love Without Commitment: How Polyamory Helps Us Live Life to the Fullest
