Back in 1981, as a freshman at Cornell, I remember many late nights with friends, eating pizza and smoking pot in each other’s dorm rooms, discussing how we wanted to live our lives after we graduated and (presumably) got married … Continue reading Children and Polyamory: The Kids Are Alright
This Spring my partner’s wife Guin found a new job in Windsor, Ontario, and the whole family is moving there this summer. Lance, her boyfriend, has already decided that he would move with them to Windsor. Art and I spent … Continue reading Should I Move in with Them?
A year ago today Art paid me a visit at the house I was staying at while temporarily separated from my husband. What happened that night was completely unexpected and I embarked on a love with depth and breadth like I … Continue reading Poem for Our One Year Anniversary
Tired of always seeing monogamous people on TV? Unicornland is an upcoming series that navigates uncharted territory in New York City’s dating scene: Couples. Creator/producer Lucy Gillespie answers some questions about the series. To learn more and support Unicornland, visit their … Continue reading Unicornland, the New Series
Last night I had that dream again. I was back in middle school and I was with Teddy. When I knew him in real life, Teddy was a short boy with a bright spirit who shared art, English, and homeroom … Continue reading The Inner Lover
Thanks to my friend Alan for the giving me the idea for this post. When we say that someone is monogamous, we usually mean that he/she is sexually exclusive with one partner. But does that mean only intercourse or all … Continue reading The Five Dimensions of Relationship Openness
In Claudia Emerson’s Late Wife, a book of poems about a marriage in which an ex who passed away figures large in a relationship, the speaker describes making love with her husband for the first time and discovering that his … Continue reading The Seven Types of Lovers
My lover is moving to Windsor, Ontario this summer because his wife accepted a job there. We currently live six hours away from each other, but in Windsor, the drive would be twelve hours, which means I’d have to take … Continue reading Living with Uncertainty
Online dating is a lot like a job search. For every job there are hundreds of applicants submitting their resumes and cover letters. For a truly good job with excellent benefits, there are hundreds of interested candidates. Would you send in … Continue reading Online Dating Etiquette: The Do’s and Don’ts of Messaging
Your partner wants to be poly. You’re … upset, sad, angry, confused, and scared, but you love your partner and you don’t want to end the relationship. This was me back in 1992 when my wife announced an attraction to another … Continue reading You Say Poly, I Say Good Golly!