The Inner Lover
Last night I had that dream again. I was back in middle school and I was with Teddy. When I knew him in real life, Teddy was a short boy with a bright spirit who shared art, English, and homeroom … Continue reading The Inner Lover
The Five Dimensions of Relationship Openness
Thanks to my friend Alan for the giving me the idea for this post. When we say that someone is monogamous, we usually mean that he/she is sexually exclusive with one partner. But does that mean only intercourse or all … Continue reading The Five Dimensions of Relationship Openness
The Seven Types of Lovers
In Claudia Emerson’s Late Wife, a book of poems about a marriage in which an ex who passed away figures large in a relationship, the speaker describes making love with her husband for the first time and discovering that his … Continue reading The Seven Types of Lovers
Living with Uncertainty
My lover is moving to Windsor, Ontario this summer because his wife accepted a job there. We currently live six hours away from each other, but in Windsor, the drive would be twelve hours, which means I’d have to take … Continue reading Living with Uncertainty
Online Dating Etiquette: The Do’s and Don’ts of Messaging
Online dating is a lot like a job search. For every job there are hundreds of applicants submitting their resumes and cover letters. For a truly good job with excellent benefits, there are hundreds of interested candidates. Would you send in … Continue reading Online Dating Etiquette: The Do’s and Don’ts of Messaging
You Say Poly, I Say Good Golly!
Your partner wants to be poly. You’re … upset, sad, angry, confused, and scared, but you love your partner and you don’t want to end the relationship. This was me back in 1992 when my wife announced an attraction to another … Continue reading You Say Poly, I Say Good Golly!
Exploring Polyamory with a Reluctant Partner
One of the most difficult experiences for people transitioning to polyamory is having a partner who is resistant to an open relationship. It usually goes like this: Two people are in a monogamous relationship by default. One of them learns … Continue reading Exploring Polyamory with a Reluctant Partner
How to Have a Great Dating Profile Photo
The online dating world is a shady place. Anybody can be on there—creeps, perverts, criminals, and people who totally misrepresent themselves. A woman has to come to the field with aggressive filters because if she doesn’t she may easily end … Continue reading How to Have a Great Dating Profile Photo
How to Write a Kick-Ass Dating Profile
Here are the self-summaries of some men who have messaged me through Okcupid lately: Guy 1: I don’t enjoy talking about myself but I’d say I am open minded, ambitious, and get along with almost everyone. I am not into … Continue reading How to Write a Kick-Ass Dating Profile
If You Love Someone, Don’t Marry Them
We have all seen it. The over-the-top marriage proposal to publicly declare your love, the diamond ring that somehow proves the depth of your commitment, the wedding that costs American couples $31,000 on average and each of their guests $700 … Continue reading If You Love Someone, Don’t Marry Them
