The past few years have been the most painful and the most transformative in my life. I’m starting to feel the urge to write again and, having come through the fire, would like to share my current vision for how I choose to show up in all of my relationships. It’s a moving (and often elusive) target so I’m very open to feedback and expect it to evolve over time.
I choose to accept you exactly as you are
because you are full and complete on your own
and you are the ultimate captain of your being.
Our journeys braid together with neither leading nor following.
I choose to be fully present with your joy and your suffering
because empathy is how I recreate your experience inside of me
which allows me to recognize and love your essential uniqueness
and find that place where our souls overlap.
I choose to seek first to understand your behaviors and thoughts
because if I experienced your background and life history
I would think and behave exactly as you
and love is born from understanding.
I choose to explore my edge of vulnerability with you
because courageously speaking my truth allows you to see me
as a spiritual being having a human experience
and vulnerability is the birthplace of intimacy, joy, and creativity.
I choose to dismantle the barriers to my experience of love
and forgive my wounded child and my stories of “not enough”
recognizing they are exactly those places inside me that long
to consciously evolve and manifest divinity in the material world.
I choose to perceive only expressions of love or calls for love
because it keeps my heart open and curious
and allows me to relax into a basic trust
that we live in a friendly Universe.
I choose to affirm my desires as flames arising from my divine spark
because it is important for me to express my deepest self with you,
to take full responsibility for my pleasure, and act in full integrity
so I can fill my heart and give to you from a place of complete generosity.
I choose to love you without attachment
because I wish to release you from expectation,
be open to the inevitability of change
and fully appreciate the present moment.
I choose to be 100% responsible for my own needs and feelings
and to not be responsible for yours
because I cherish your autonomy and freedom
and know we are at source for our own happiness.
I choose to deeply regard your well-being
because your happiness is important to me
and I wish to engage with you in ways
that allow you to feel loved and respected.
I choose to nurture visions of your highest potential
beyond even what you might imagine for yourself
because it is through feeling held and lifted
that we can dream into more beautiful ways of being in the world.
I choose to ignite and energize our “we-ness”
because it is intelligent and wise beyond our selves
and allows us to participate in humanity’s awakening
and the evolution of God.
I choose to stay open to the mystery and potential
of you, me, and us
confident in my not knowing
how the universe will unfold.